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Emotional Intelligence

July 31, 2012

One major thing that all great leaders have in common is Emotional Intelligence.  Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the extent to which people are self-aware, can manage their emotions (i.e. anger, sadness, excitements), can motivate themselves, express empathy, and have great social skills.  Emotional intelligence is crucial in being able to manage behavior and move easily through social settings, in addition to being able to make crucial decisions.

Self Awareness:  This is the backbone to all the other components in a person’s personality.  It refers to the person’s capacity for being aware of what they are feeling.  People who are more self-aware are able to guide their own lives and behaviors under any circumstances.

Self Management:  This is managing emotions; it is a person’s ability to  balance anxiety, fear and anger so that those feeling do not interfere with making decisions or getting things accomplished.  It also refers to the capability of controlling impulsive feelings and adapt to certain circumstances/

Motivation:  This refers to a person’s ability to continue striving  and remaining optimistic even when faced with a set back or barrier.  Even with a failure, people who strongly maintain motivation will push through.

Empathy:  The ability to understand how other people are feelings and understand the needs and concerns of other people.  This included being able to read emotional cues.

Social Skill:  The ability to get along with others and establish positive relationships.  Being able oto speak clearly and influence others to work well in a team.

People with high emotional intelligence may be able to perform better than others, especially in and interpersonal setting.

Aside from leadership in an organization, there are other reasons why emotional intelligence is important:

  • Physical Health: Out of control stress levels can cause serious health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, risk of heart attack or stroke, as well as a unfunctionable immune system.
  • Mental Health:  Anxiety, depression, uncontrollable mood swings.
  • Relationships: Being able to communicate effectively can greatly impact your relationships, as well as being able to empathize and understand why others feel the way they do.


  1. Rapidly reduce stress: Realize when you are stressed, identify your stress response, discover stress techniques that work for you (running works for me)
  2. Emotional Awareness: Understand how your emotions influence your thoughts and actions.
  3. Nonverbal communication:  Make eye contact, focus on the person you are talking to and  pay attention to facial expression, tone of voice, posture, touch etc.
  4. Use humor and play to deal with changes: Take hardships in stride, be more creative, and smooth over differences.
  5. Resolve conflict positively: Forgive.

The best part of emotional intelligence is it can be learned.  Working on the skills mentioned can have a dramatic positive affect on life.

Click here to take an emotional intelligence test.  I’m not exactly sure how accurate it is, but like any personality test, it is pretty fun and interesting.




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